Limiting Your Potential: 'You attract what you are'

My life is a movie, or it's how I've always viewed it. It's dramatic in the best and worst ways possible. Granted, my astrological sign is Leo but, that's neither here nor there.

I guess it's because I'm one to make a "moment" out of any situation because I still believe that everything happens for a reason. I find that this mindset has served me good ...while simultaneously triggering my anxiety.

Even the bad overacts on it's own. I mean, the fall out of my last relationship was straight out of a Tyler Perry movie. He agrees.

Nonetheless, I appreciate every life experience and never take anything for granted because failures, disappointments, deception it's inevitable. However, like the famous cliche goes "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade."

At this point in our lives we've all been around death and after every passing, we tweet, caption on Instagram or snap, "Live your life, tomorrow's not promised." Can you say you truly practice what you preach?

I'd like to believe I live life carpe diem ...with three quarters of the fearlessness.

For the most part, what comes natural to me inspires a lot of my friends and even family. If there's one thing I want to be remembered for is that I took risks, that I went for everything I ever wanted and motivated others to do the same.

Do you believe that your life has already been planned out?

I often wonder if it's a safety net, like religion, to calculate life events and people in your life as learning experiences. You know how some believe every person who enters your life will either help you, hurt you, love you or leave you but it's all part of a plan to get you to who and where you are meant to be. It's a secure approach to life.

Or do you hold onto the belief that we are a (human body) shell made of energy in motion with the Universe, vibrating with the environment(s) around us and what we submit ourselves to or give, we receive?

Ok, that sentence was a lot. Am I Bill Nye the Science Guy?

Hear me out...

I do believe that everything happens for a reason.

I also believe that my life has already been planned out for me, (by me)

Stay with me...

Is it one set plan? No. Can it change? Yes.


You attract what you are.

For my 27th birthday last August, I took a mini trip. I did my best to disconnect and really spend time with myself. I came across the audiobook Unfu*k Yourself: Get out of your head and into your life and chiiiiiiiile, Chapter 3? On repeat. The name of the Chapter is "I am wired to win" and it goes on and on about how powerful our subconscious is. For example, if you tell yourself you hate doing dishes and don't want to do it, you won't. Duh. But, when you keep telling yourself that'll find yourself "winning" at it. Next thing you know, you're eating cereal out of a flower vase. You did it! Hooray?

You ARE wired to win at whatever you set your mind to.

We often draw conclusions that limit our own potential.

Here's what I have, unfortunately, won at too many times: I desire a life partner who is a whole list of things but, I didn't see myself worthy of that kind of love. I used to figure I was asking for too much or that the man I would eventually choose would grow to be the person I deserve (ha!)

Every man I have ever been involved with barely even checked off my short list of who an ideal partner would be. I gave in too easy to feeling desirable, the attention that came with it and half-a** effort. The insecurity of not allowing myself to abide to boundaries and settling, I would be in situationships acting like a wife to men who were still dating me in their minds — and that made me a winner.

For as long as I can remember, I have been limiting my own potential. It's something that I have subconsciously wanted to work on. And for the last 3 months, I have been doing just that. It has been an uncomfortable but very rewarding self-discovery journey...

The energy we give is what we receive. Being mindful of how we talk about ourselves and to ourselves is very important and can change your life... because we can, and will attract our thoughts.

So yes, everything does happen for a reason and my life has been planned out, by me (subconsciously)

I am learning to focus my brain on strictly producing positive, goal-oriented and limitless thoughts. I will only think of myself as my highest self and go after that person. I will embrace the unknown but, believe that I can attract and manifest my greatest desires.

Our time on Earth is limited. When we do transition after death, life will go on without us...

Celebrate your wins, your losses, adjust according and attract what you know you deserve.

Now ask yourself, who am I going to be in this lifetime?